You can't. True community isn't found, its forged.
“This is why the Bible talks about people needing to form and make communities, not just come together as a community or “experience” community. It’s why principles are given – at length – for how to work through conflict. It’s why communication skills are articulated in the Bible and issues such as anger are instructed to be dealt with. It’s why the dynamics of successfully living with someone in the context of a marriage or family are explored in depth. As the author of Hebrews puts it so plainly:
’So don’t sit around on your hands! No more dragging your feet… run for it! Work at getting along with each other.’ (Hebrews 12:12-14, The Message)”
Dr. White's whole post is worth reading. Check it out here.